Are you living the life you want to live?

Many of us get caught up in what we feel we should do, and before long, we find ourselves living lives that are from what we really want. How can we get back to living experiences that bring us joy and are full of purpose?

From an early age, society tells us what a successful life should look like. Many of us are taught that a good life should look something like this:

  • Do well at school
  • Go on to college or university
  • Get a corporate job
  • Work your way up the corporate ladder
  • Find a partner
  • Get married
  • Buy a house
  • Have kids
  • Save money
  • Retire

But what if this life plan doesn’t bring you joy? What if you find as you follow this life plan that what you get is a life without purpose? One that has you simply going through the motions? Do you continue on this path and hope it will work itself out? Or do you take charge and begin to define the life you want in order to pursue it?

If you find yourself living a life that isn’t bringing you joy or a sense of fulfilment, then this blog post is for you. In it, I’m sharing 4 journal prompts that will help you define the life you want to live.

How To Define The Life You Want To Live.


Journaling to Define the life you want to live


Whenever I find myself needing to work through life’s deeper problems, I turn to my journal. In my experience, taking the time to get my thoughts on paper helps me to sort through my feelings, and make sense of my emotions. As a result, journaling helps me to work out what to do to create a better outcome.

In this case, the outcome we’re looking for is a life that will bring you fulfillment and joy. The 4 journal prompts in this blog post will help you to do that.

A few tips before you start:


Don’t rush the process.

My guess is that it’s taken you a while to get to this point in your life. Give yourself time and show yourself compassion as you define what is you really want from life.

Be honest with yourself.

Your journal will not judge you. This is your safe place, and you have permission to be as vulnerable as you need to be. Be honest and let your most authentic emotions flow onto your page.

Show yourself compassion

Don’t judge yourself, be kind as you write. Make yourself as comfortable as possible every time you sit down to journal. Give yourself time to think about and process what you’ve written.

Don’t make hasty decisions.

Sit with your responses for a while before taking action. Don’t get caught up in the heat of the moment, but let things settle in your mind, and check-in with your heart before you take action.

All answers are good answers.

Don’t feel the need to write in a certain way. Just get your thoughts from your head and onto the page.

You can use:

  • Bullet points
  • Mind maps
  • Drawings and doodles
  • Shorthand
  • Poetry

Use whatever form of self-expression that comes most natural to you.

4 Journal Prompts To Help you define the life you want to live

Happiness is…

How can you begin to create a life that brings you happiness if you don’t know what happiness means to you?

Love is…

I struggled a little with this prompt and ended up writing a list of times when I felt most loved. As a result, I noticed a pattern emerge, which helped me to define what love is to me.

Life is…

This prompt is a 2 part process. Your first response is to write what life is for you right now. For example:

  • Life is full of work and pressure.
  • Life is like a hamster wheel with not a lot of time for rest.

The second part of the process is to define what you feel life is about. For example:

  • Life is a chance to express yourself. It’s an opportunity to feel love and share love.

My ideal self would…

Think about your highest self when answering this journal prompt. What would your ideal self, the person you aspire to be, do if she could do anything in the world?

Bringing It All Together


Once you’ve worked your way through the 4 journal prompts, you should begin to see a pattern emerge.

Within your responses will be the foundations of the life you want to live. All you need to do now is make a plan to get to where you want to be.

Advice From Someone Who Is Living The Life She Wanted To Live


This blog post has been written by someone who successfully turned their life around from one filled with boredom and sadness to a life of purpose and joy. If I can do it, you can too. Use these journal prompts to define what you want, and then take the steps necessary to bring the change you wish to see.

I’m going to leave you with this beautiful quote from Mary Oliver. I know you’ve heard it before, but it’s worth repeating.