Are you happy? It seems like a simple question, but it’s a loaded one. But in this time of quarantines, self-isolation and lockdowns, we have an opportunity to ask ourselves the right questions so that we can grow.
With all of this extra time on our hands, why not use it to discover who we are and what we want from our lives?
I wrote a post recently about using this time to reconnect with yourself. One of the reconnection tools I mentioned was asking yourself the right questions. I think the question – are you happy- is a great place to start.
Happiness Is a Work in Progress
Now, I don’t believe many amongst us could answer that question with an emphatic YES! And be done with it. I think total happiness only happens on special one-off occasions. Like standing at the altar saying “I do”, or holding your newborn for the first time, or landing your dream job. For most of us, happiness is a work in progress.
If I was to answer the question Am I Happy, my answer would be something like this:
Yes, I’m happy. My relationship is strong, and we are working together towards supporting each other and being kind to each other while we navigate Covid 19 and all the changes and challenges it’s bringing to our lives.
I’m not that happy with my work life. While I feel I am providing service to people with my blog, writing and online business, my work as a yoga teacher lacks any meaning. I would love to bring more authentic teaching and have my own studio rather than teaching in gyms. I feel that I have no opportunity to create a real community or human connection through my yoga without my own space to teach in.
I would delve deeper into other areas of my life, too, like my friendships, my home environment, and my daily habits.
Life Is Never Perfect
By working through each area of my life, I can pinpoint parts that I can work on and improve. Life is never perfect, but it can be meaningful, satisfying and full of joyful moments if we pay attention to it.
Be Kind To Yourself
So, if you want to make the most of this world-wide pause, and use this time to reconnect with yourself, perhaps now is the time to start a journaling practice. Grab yourself a notebook and at the top of the page write:
AM I HAPPY?
You don’t have to answer the question all at once. Give yourself a few days to think about it. Be honest with yourself, but also be kind. Don’t judge yourself if your answer is no, or if this question brings up deep emotions for you. Be gentle with yourself as you dig deep. Our lives pre coronavirus were so distracted; you are forgiven if you find yourself in an unhappy situation. But now you have the time and opportunity to begin to change your life. This process will take courage and kindness in equal measures.
After you’ve answered the question – are you happy – ask yourself, how can I improve the areas of my life where I’m not happy?
Identify 1 or 2 things that you can do to make small changes to improve your life. Small changes are more comfortable to implement, then huge sweeping ones. And right now enough is going on in your life.
Take it easy on yourself here, identify which areas of your life need a tweak, then find small steps you can take to begin to improve those areas. Be honest and loving with yourself as you answer this question. No judgements, just kindness.
Life is crazy right now, for all of us. We can choose to make the most of this time to better ourselves, which will lead to a better world after the coronavirus crisis. Every crisis brings great opportunity. I’m choosing hope over fear right now, and I’m hoping you join me.